(verb) to desire, to wish for
When I was about 15 I had a fantasy where I had a really good guy friend who knew everything about me and also struggled with same-sex attraction. It was a complicated one. He was kinda needy and I would help him through some tough times. (cringe, cause now i’m older I can diagnose myself). Interestingly I would never have to tell him I had feelings for guys, because one night while we were sleeping an angel would come and take us both to a well-lit and peaceful location and the angel would tell us we both liked guys and we could support each other. (embarrased laughter).
I see the desire for closeness and being known in that fantasy and in the past year I have experienced both. But they weren’t necessarily everything I thought they would be. I’m not saying it wasn’t good and healthy to experience these things; just that they didn’t fill empty places like I imagined they would when I was 15. Being close to people is great but there is a lot more expectation and room for failure in a close friendship. Also I started going to a group where there’s about 10 guys around the age of 20 who deal with same-sex attraction stuff and it has also been great. It is nice to say to someone, “I told my parents about a year ago,” and know by their reaction that they understand lots of the emotions and thoughts that go with that. But when I was 15 I would have guessed knowing someone who also struggled would have been a massive help, but it has only been helpful.
More recently I wanted to become a man. Not that I am not already a man. But I wanted to be a RAH RAH RAH MAN. I wanted to take more responsibility, be more assertive, be more disciplined etc. And it was going great until I had to start putting this stuff into practise. I accidently scrapped a car in a car park with my car and the bill came back for $660. My Dad offered to pay for it, but being a MAN I thought I should do the manly thing and cough up the cash. Also a lot of people have silly ideas and now as a man I felt I should lovingly correct some of them. This was not much fun. Also people would start asking me lose-lose questions. Lose if you don’t answer, lose more if you do. I think Grandpa’s dressing up like teenagers look silly, but I get where they’re coming from. It’s easy being a boy.
I’m not disillusioned that what I thought I wanted didn’t fill me in the ways I thought it would. I was old enough to know it probably wouldn’t. But I guess I still have this childish desire to be whisked away to never-never land and party like it’s 2006, hold on it is…
OHMYGOSH!!! Look at you Mr. Journalist!!!! You run on “silent mode” for months and then……WHAM!!!!!..you get the writing bug all the sudden!!! Man…I miss a day on your site (which NEVER had anything on it)..and I feel like I’ve missed the history of the 20th century…so I subscribed.
hahahhahahahahah!!! All my best!
Casey
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It is so nice to see you finally. I’m so glad the “ghost” has a real human face! Welcome aboard bro!
Blessings,
Lonnie
Oh! Lord! You’re a journalist???? No wonder you never left comments, you must have been too frustrated with my terrible grammer and improper word usage…..I’m sorry you suffered in silence!
No…they lost. Such is life 😦
Hey! I have friends in Melbourne! And I know how to say it too!
dan
too funny when you say rah rah rah man….i can just picture a man being assertive in some situation….with his cheerleading squad encouraging him by making up a cheer…rah rah rah
kayz