SO some guy I know from my
same- sex attraction support group (which for various reasons hasn’t me since November)
told me that he is looking for a boyfriend. No he hasn’t turned his back on ‘God’
or his idea of God at least. He’s spent a lot of time with God and will
continue to attempt to stay away from porn, and won’t have sex with a potential
boyfriend. At least until they get married. I didn’t really know what to say so
I asked some more questions and found out a bit more about his beliefs. I asked
him what other people had thought. He said he hadn’t told many and the person
he had told didn’t seem to agree. He then asked me what I thought.
I still didn’t know what to
say. I know what I wanted to say: “this is not right, what about all the Bible
verses, what about other people who have succeeded (or more probably fought
valiantly)?” But I doubt it would have helped so I just said “it doesn’t matter
what I think”. Though I did ask, “do you really believe, 100 per cent believe
that God wants you to have a boyfriend?” I’ll spare you his answer. Should I
have told him he was wrong? Or said I’ll always love you, but I don’t agree
with you? or whatever?
To tell you the truth I wasn’t
really surprised. He is not the kind of person who would spend hours studying
and come to believe intellectual and theological arguments about why it’s okay
to be gay and Christian. Instead he’s at the other end of the equation; someone
who is overly influenced by the self-help and God of abundance of pop-pentecostalism.
But the end result is still the same. A walking away from the truth into a
self-created sort of religion where “I create my own destiny; God works along